"As soon as there is any kind of deception, stop everything. Where there is deception there is no relationship."
This is such a hard thing to live out! But it is so true. Accountability keeps us in REALITY. When we deceive ourselves or others, we are not in reality with them- and everything has to stop and be re-evaluated. This is not to say that you should break up and never reconcile. But time must stop, lies/deception be confronted and reconciliation happen (to turn from and walk the other direction) before relationship can resume.