Thinking Errors: Strict Expectations
Posted: April 6, 2015
"I should be able to get all of the housework done by Tuesday now, since I am a stay at home mom and don't work."
"You should come check on me when I have been taking care of the baby for a while."
"I should have known."
Try and hide it all you want- but it is evident in your tone, facial expression, body language, and sarcastic comments. Or should I say, MY... These expectations of myself and others ourselves will leave me chronically dissatisfied and discontent if left unchecked.
This is where I utilize the "open hand" analogy.
Hold out an "open hand", allowing things to be received and given away.
Open to how things will be. Able to state your desires and then experience life, knowing you are dealing with imperfect people (self included).
A good step in stopping thinking errors is recognizing key words. The word "should" is a red flag for unhelpful thinking. If you find yourself thinking these thoughts, you can rest assured they are untrue.
The truth is that we have a God who is in control and orchestrating or allowing all of our circumstances. This truth should silence your discontent. Focus on the blessings, maximize the strengths, and dwell on the lovely things; Minimize the weaknesses, make the least of the worst, and take control of those critical thoughts.